Fine Tune Your Emotional Balancing Ability
There are many different ways to deal with negative emotional experiences and get back in tune with ourselves. Once we are tuned in to our inner selves, we can turn any situation or experience around and accept positive emotional experiences into our lives. Some prefer to practice meditation or yoga, take a training course, seek counseling, read self-improvement materials, etc.
So, how do we learn which emotional balancing techniques work for us? The first step is to identify exactly how you are feeling throughout your day and to reflect upon those feelings before going to bed at night. It’s common for us to give a general answer when someone asks us how we are doing. This question often elicits responses like “good”, “fine”, and “ok”. But be honest with yourself when you ask “how am I feeling?”. Are you feeling happy, sad, angry, scared, etc.? Identifying your true emotion in any given circumstance is the first step in fine tuning your ability to balance emotions with reactions. It may be helpful to try a biofeedback device that monitors your stress levels.
The next step is to figure out what triggered you to feel that way. Was it the way someone spoke to you? Did the barista give you the wrong cappuccino again? Did you encounter a conflict with a loved one? Were you reading a chapter in your favorite book? Did your pet snuggle up to you? Whatever it was, learn to consciously link it to how it made you feel. In the future, this skill will help you to decide which experiences cause you to feel good emotions and which cause you stress and negative emotions.
When you’ve begun to distinguish how different experiences effect your own emotions personally, you will be in a position to change the way you react emotionally and physically. As stated onShake Off The Grind “The wise mind is the balance between emotion and logic, and is where we neither suppress the way we feel, or let our emotions get the best of us. It allows us to experience and embrace our emotions while still having the self-control to think about the best response.” Experimenting with different types of stress relief techniques, such as those mentioned in the first paragraph, will be more valuable when you are able to truly identify how they really make you feel. Joe Wilner states on Psych Central “You can start to prompt positive emotions by learning how to recognize and manage emotional cues, what you think about, and the habits you have.” This will put you on a fast track to fine tuning your emotional balancing ability and allowing positive experiences to flow into your life.